Yes, But What About You?

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What To Do Now

#1 Read through the characteristics of empaths list below

#2 Fill in the short survey below and I will send you a powerful exercise to help you manage your life better. The only thing I would like in return is honest feedback as  to how helpful this is.

Characteristics of Empaths

Emotional Sponge - you find it hard to disentangle yourself from others’ problems. You cannot just listen sympathetically to a friend’s problem, give advice, then get on with your day. You absorb their pain like a sponge. It affects you long after you hear about it.

Highly Intuitive - you can sense things that others cannot and....

have an ability to read a situation that others lack - although you may not have the confidence in this that you should, because some of the other traits on this list may result in you doubting yourself.

The Feel Bad Crutch - because people sense that you can mop up their pain, you can easily become a feel bad crutch for people. They can't stop moaning to you and leaning on you, pouring out their victim stories for you to mop up. You may find that they are more cheerful around others, although this may be completely unintentional on the part of the person leaning on you. You, however, get the worst of both worlds.

Narcissists love you - this is an intentional extension of the feel bad crutch. Christiane Northrup in Dodging Energy Vampires talks about narcissistic supply, which is when a narcissist uses others as a way to self aggrandise. It may be combined with strategically putting you on a pedestal. Maybe you experience feeling used one week, then on the receiving end of a rush of compliments, flowers etc the following week.

You feel an affinity with animals

Violence and cruelty are intolerable to you

You take too much responsibility for the wellbeing of others and generally give too much of yourself to the world.

You put others’ wellbeing before your own - in fact, you may not respect your own needs at all when someone else is leaning on you. 

You avoid standing up for yourself or hide your true self with certain people in order to avoid getting a dose of negative energy from them.

You are a people pleaser

Crowded places overwhelm you easily

And now for the questions...