#1 Create Accept and Allow affirmations that are relevant to you personally
UPDATE: Allowing is better than allow
If you say I am accepting/ allowing myself to it is more of an active, do it now kind of instruction to the subconscious than merely I accept/allow, in the same way that I am revising hard every day for my exam shows more energy/effort than I revise every day.
Here are some examples ( I have left the word accept unchanged in a couple of places. Which version works better for you? There are no hard and fast rules here):
I am accepting my faults and am allowing myself to be as strong fit, and resilient as possible
I am accepting my imperfect body, and allowing myself to go to the gym today for an hour
I accept my mistakes at work last week, and am allowing myself to finish today’s report by 3.30pm
I accept that giving up sugar is uncomfortable, and am allowing myself to get used to the replacements.
I am allowing myself time on Wednesday at 6pm to create my menu board
I am allowing myself to take 20 minutes to eat breakfast this morning at 7.30am
I am allowing myself to have a relationship
I am allowing myself to risk rejection by asking ….
I am allowing myself to keep my house tidy so I feel relaxed when I come home.
NB Play around with these. You can see that some statements have accepting elements, and some are purely allowing. At the time of writing, I have only recently conceptualised the whole A&A affirmations, so I am still experimenting. One question I am always asking is “Does the accepting statement actually promote resistance?” Do ask yourself this. In the case of
I accept my mistakes at work last week
they have already happened, and with
I accept that giving up sugar is uncomfortable
I only advise using this if that is something you feel hard done by about, and a real victim. If it is already a big problem. As time goes on and you start to get used to not having sugar, I would absolutely get rid of that statement.
We will create and discuss the right A&A affirmations for you in sessions.